“It would be less ridiculous if he wore a wedding gown”: Husband insists on wearing graduation gown to wife’s graduation ceremony, the internet backs up her discomfort around stealing her thunder

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    My husband wants to wear his own graduation gown to my graduation ceremony

    "Your husband is a narcissist"
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    I am graduating from my master's of science degree and my husband went and bought a graduation. gown from his college to wear to my ceremony. He walked years ago, back in 2011. This is my second career and I'm very excited to walk. Part of me wants to support him. and think it's a bice gesture. He said he bought it to surprise me.
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    But part of me is embarrassed and doesn't want him to wear it. Another part is selfish and I feel that it's taking the attention away from me. Just a lot of different thoughts around this.
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    AITAH for not wanting him to wear his gown?
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    Update: wow I'm blown away. Thank you for everyone's response. Within this short period of time I've already spoken to him and told him how I feel about it: and it echoes what everyone has written below. Thank you for the feedback and I feel more confident now. And to be honest emotional and eyes opened after reading everyone's response. Thanks and be well, all.
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    Kisanna 8h ago Your husband is going to look stupid showing up to your graduation ceremony and sitting in the audience in a graduation gown.
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    jrm1... 8h ago • Edited 6h ago NTA - thats kind of ridiculous and low key, hes giving main character syndrome.
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    Edit - im convinced. Not just low key, major main character syndrome. And some of the comments here are hilarious. Keep up the good work.
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    III_World_2409 8h ago Lol what? He has no reason to wear the gown. NTA. He is trying to take attention away from you or he is completely clueless
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    Babycatcher2023 • 7h ago No one in the history of everdom wears their graduation paraphernalia to someone else's graduation as a surprise to the graduate. This is not cute or supportive.
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    The way to support/surprise you was with flowers, a nice dinner, a gift, flying in a loved one that otherwise would've missed it not this. This is a person who doesn't want to be out of the spotlight. The more generous (though less likely) take is that he's just socially inept and, if that's the
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    you case, when you explain why don't want him to do this he'll be embarrassed of his faux pas and apologize. It's far more likely though, that when you pushback he'll dig in his heels, start a fight, and sour. That is how you'll know it was never about supporting you but making sure he was front
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    and center during your season of celebration.
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    Pers14 •8h ago NTA. Your husband is being weird.
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    RFDrew11357 • 8h ago Academic regalia is not appropriate for guests in this situation. It's reserved for the graduates, faculty, or anyone. else involved in the ceremony. I have mine and have never worn it to anyone else's graduation where I was a
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    parent or guest. I'd be very embarrassed to.
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    Relevant-Highlight90 8h ago NTA, your husband is a narcissist and is trying to make your special day all about himself.
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    Only graduating people and staff should be wearing gowns.
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    Enigmaticsole • 8h ago Looking like a bride at someone else's wedding...
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    Psychological-Fox97 • 8h ago NTA if you look back can you perhaps notice a pattern of him wanting to detract and distract from you and your achievements?
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    urkulAa • 8h ago The way these men hate their wife is truly frightening

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